Our boy Jake

by Joseph
(Reno Nv)

On the day my youngest child was born I was blind sighted by the fact that it was a girl instead of a boy. After all,The doctor told us were having a boy and we had the name Jacob picked out for him. We named our third daughter Emily. A few years later my wife left me with three little girls to raise by myself . I bought a Golden for the girls as a Christmas gift and we named him Jake. On his pedigree papers his name appears as "Our Boy Jake". Jake went on to be a very special part of our family. Well almost 12 years has gone by and Jake was getting old and weak and was diagnosed with cancer. The day after my 60th birthday my daughter Morgyn called me at work crying asking me to come home cause Jake had collapsed in the front yard and could not get up. We took our boy to the vet and for an hour and a half Emily pleaded with me not to let him go. After many tears were shed by all, I convinced the girls and myself that it was time to let Our precious boy Jake go peacefully. This has left us completely devastated and broken hearted but I believe we were very fortunate to have been able to hold him in our arms when he took his last breath rather then finding out that he died at home alone while laying on his blanket. It has only been 3 days since he left and at this point I am beating myself up for putting him down. I know it was the right thing to do cause he is no longer in pain but I feel so guilty. I miss Jake every minute of my days and hope he is ok. I miss you so much Jacob and I am so sorry that it had to be this way. I will never ever forget the joy you brought to our family. Take care buddy! XOXO Joseph

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Dec 17, 2018
Take Care
by: Anonymous

Please don't beat yourself up. You did the best you could for him. Easier to say than do, I know. I'm still beating myself up for having my Mosie put to sleep---did I cheat him, could he have had a little more time? No, I did my best too; we know we were loved and we tried.

Hope you're healing.

Jul 01, 2018
Lost my Buddy
by: Tammy

My Boy Jake story brought tears to my eyes as we had the same experience with out golden Buddy. Buddy was 14 when we had to have him put to sleep, with the entire family with him, holding and patting him as he slipped away. The sadest day for me, but for my kids who where 15 and 17 at the time couldn’t really remember a life without Buddy.
I relate to this story so much, I too feel guilty i couldn’t do more for Buddy.
It has been three years now and I still think about Buddy often. We now have a new Golden, and he give us joy (although a handful at times) every day. I find I constantly compare Ben to Buddy, they are both gentle soles that’s only goal in life is to be close to you and love you.
I love golden’s and am so happy to have Ben and the memory of Buddy with me.
Cheers Tammy (Australia)

Nov 18, 2017
So sorry for your loss of Jake
by: Anonymous

I am so sad to read your story and very sad that you and your girls have gone through this. I hope with the passing of time it gets that bit easier. Jake sounded like a most beautiful and special part of your family. He was lucky to be so loved by you all.
All the best to you and your girls xx

Jan 25, 2017
dealing with the pain
by: Matt

I've been thru this 3 times so trust me when I share with you what I've learned.

First of all, avoid anyone who has never loved a dog. The last thing you want to hear is "just get another dog". Only you know how special your pup was and you need to be around people who can appreciate that.

As hard as it may be for you to believe that the pain will ease up, it will. In time you will cherish the fun and adventures your boy took you on and the sadness will begin to fade.

Now I will tell you what's going to happen to you as time goes by. If your like me you will swear to never get another dog again and proceed to b
get rid of everything doggy in your life--big mistake. At some point in time you will want to risk the pain and bring another pup into your world. This is when it gets interesting and when Jakes life will become very relevant. I don't know if you have had other dogs beside Jake or if you have everthought about this in this way, but this will be Jakes legacy. Each new dog is better than the one that came before it because of what you learned from the previous dog. Think about it, am I not right? Jakes memories will be come an instruction manual for your new dog and that will be wonderful.

In the meantime I am so sorry for your loss, hang in there, it will get better.


Nov 22, 2016
Sadness and Guilt
by: Kikie

I have, at 70, had to put down a number of pets over the years, and it never gets easier, but when we do it out of love, because of our darling is in pain and when we have the luxury of being with them, it is such a gift - to all involved. So sorry for you daughter's pain - it is so hard when we are young.

I have found that moving a new dog into the home once your sorrow has softened, is a great help. There are plenty of Golden Retriever rescue agencies to work with, with many in great need.

While I am experienced with other breeds in the past, my husband and I have just gotten our first Golden boy, who is now 6 months old and already understand what all the hype is about. He is laying in my lap as I type and has thoroughly captured our hearts, making me understand how very hard it will be to lose him one day, which is why I am already planning to go the rescue route when that happens some day, so the dog and I can be old together. One Golden and we are now permanent Golden parents.

I am so sorry for the loss of your long-time love. If it suits your life to still have a dog, you obviously have exactly the kind of love a dog needs.

Jan 28, 2016
I know your pain!!! So sorry!!
by: Anonymous

I too loss my Golden Lucky and I too had to put him to sleep due to cancer. He was only 8 and he was the love of my life. I have been grieving for 5 week. I found out Dec. 17 2015 at 4:00 pm and the doctor told me cancer had eaten his jaw and his ear canal and he only had 4 weeks to live. I brought him home and made all his favorites and watching him so sad was horrible. Then he stopped drinking water and barely would eat. I knew it was time by his eyes and ieI had to make that call.
I too feel guilty!! My grief is overwhelming!!
I have to get help. He was my joy my life and my best friend. I only hope he will be with me again in heaven. I know he will be and so will Jake with you and your family!! God Bless !!

Oct 12, 2015
I have a gift for you....no strings if you want it
by: Mustang Sally-Maria

I am SO terribly sorry for your loss for your entire family. You did do the right thing. You loved your beloved boy and didn't wish to see him in pain or suffering of any kindd. That is true love. I have a girl named Posi (positraction) as we collect classic cars. We are about to breed her and I would love to offer you a puppy for your family if you can come and get her. It breaks my heart to see a family hurting over the loss of their family member, however you do have memories and the future memories of your future family. If this is something you'd like, please email back at maria.erickson@hill-rom.com No strings no charges....a free golden because I love the breed so much and they are such a great addition to anyones family.

May 23, 2015
jake
by: Lynne

i know how you are feeling. I lost my boy 2 weeks ago. He was our boy from 7 weeks and then he was my boy after my partner died 10 years ago. My boy was 13 years old when I let him go. It was the right thing to do as he was in pain with arthritis and struggled to get up etc. but I feel so guilty. He was my soul mate.

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